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#1 simba

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Posted 26 June 2014 - 11:22 PM

hi.
i'm 30 male married for 5 yrs n diagnoses with depression. My wife does not know how best to deal with it so i try not to let her kno when i am going through it. What is now happening is that i seek companion ship from other women...not sex but maybe some sexual stuff n conversations. Something to make my mind excited as opposed to depressed.
What makes it worse is if i want to talk to one of ny female friends or be with them but they are too busy....i also slip into depression. It's hard. I look for things to take my mind off of it but it is difficult. Cause things i see that i can try is either harmful to me or my relationship.

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Posted 29 June 2014 - 01:38 PM

was hoping to get someone's take on this....or anyone who went thru something similar n got out successfully.

#3 rosie8

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Posted 05 September 2014 - 11:56 AM

Hi - I will reply, even though it may get me into hot water!

 

A couple years ago, when my relationship should have been ok a year into it  - I found that when I felt unable to cope with him or things around me - i did have a couple of 'friendships' with other men.  I am not proud of it, and it was an old habit I have now kicked - seeking male attention to feel better about myself. 

 

It was exciting getting dressed up, and having glass wine and talking flirty and feeling like someone else for a while and not being boring sensible me.  At some point when my relationship got more serious, I stopped it all completely. 

 

I look back and sometimes miss it, but think its my past, but this time my depression wont benefit from that behaviour again.

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#4 Jeff91

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Posted 24 February 2015 - 05:19 AM

Why don't you make conversations with your wife that will make your mind excited instead of doing it with the other girls? You might know that it would be more exciting with her.