Feels like Falling.
Posted 27 June 2010 - 04:23 AM
Slightly more Lost and Confused than usual,
Posted 27 June 2010 - 11:58 AM
My first thought for you was 'oh, what a shame you feel so homesick'! second thought 'wow, I'm envious, that you have a home you miss', never had that pleasure till I met my lovely hub at 28 years old.
It will feel like a long time, but break it down into time you sleep, meal preparation, trying to avoid 'party animal' next door!!, its only a few hours. Make a regular call home, whether its once a day or once every two days, I am sure ma n pa are missing you just as much and will love having calls from you. Take time out to write them post cards or letters, cos unlike emails they are in your handwriting and can be pinned up and carried around in handbags or on the sunshields in the car. Try to tell ma n pa and your friend somat good each phone call, let them know you miss them, but make the aim of the call to leave them feeling happy you called.
Your stuffed animals? When you go home, bring a few back with you!! Or get them some new friends to take home.
Conversation starters? Hi, whats your name, where are you from, wheres the best take out, oh god, I'm so tired, whaddya think of: recent new song, clothes shop, weather, tutor, politics, etc etc. We all love to talk about ourselves and sometimes the way to make friends is just listen, you may only have to say 'yes' uhuh' a few times and you will have a friend for life.
When I find it hard to cope, break things down to small time frames, quick tasks and think only about the next thing, not 10 things ahead.
Sometimes change is a bummer, but would I still like to be on baby food and sitting in a pram at 46? Nah, dont think so.
Being the grand old age of 46 and remembering what was so important to me at 18, it was quite a stressful time and advice I would give you? Dont rush things, hang back a little and people watch, take a few minutes to think about what you say, try to judge the atmosphere, they will all be just a self conscious as you, they are just doing a better job of covering it up. I only found out years later from my former classmates just how terrified they were of different things and situations, but it took about 15 years for me to find that out.
Once you get over the scarey mary bit, I am sure you will do just fine and hey it aint like this is a remand centre, its college and there will be others who feel just like you do, it will be a matter of letting them open up and feel confident that they can drop their mask.
Posted 28 June 2010 - 01:12 AM
I think Mary's advice is right on the money. Break the time down to manageable amounts, regardless of how small, sometimes minutes.
Do keep up with your mental health and make sure you are comfortable with the medical people you are working with, if not find someone you do feel comfortable with.
Taking time to get the lay of the land, what is what, what people do, how people are, where things are, etc. is very important in my book when making any kind of change. Give yourself time to figure some things out and think about what you want to do. Remember, you can always change your mind.
Consider what activities you would like to be involved in, what is available in the summer? Get involved slowly because you can add more later depending upon the time you have and how you feel.
Give yourself a transition time, say two weeks, to just cry and write about being homesick and how much you are not liking change, and humans generally do not like change. Then, try to cut out the crying and enjoy the life you are building at school.
Post often here and let us know how things are going.
Posted 07 July 2010 - 02:04 AM
Posted 23 December 2010 - 04:41 PM
There are two remedies. First is to make friends, and willfully party a few times to make a group of yours. This way you will feel that you have made a family here too. Also keep some chocolates and your favorite munching stuff handy. Remember chocolates are great mood elevators. Those things will be good mood elevators for you, which you specially enjoy eating. So keep munching in short intervals.