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#1 Alberto

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Posted 25 March 2007 - 09:13 PM

:oops: As you can guess this is not an easy topic for me, but I thought I had t reach out.

Since I was 13 I've been watching and masturbating to porn. I started to notice that whenever I felted lonely or especially rejected by girls I would turn to porn to hide the pain and in some weird way feel like at least a got a little connection to women(Stupid I Know). As the years have passes I've tried to stop the porn watching, but I 've failed so many times I've lost count. It makes me feel especially guilty being that I really believe sex is mean't to be for emotional and physical bonding between a committed couple.

I'm extremely shy socially, so I've only had one gf and I've always felt that my depression and my guilt based on that I felt like I was cheating on her with the porn, destroyed the relationship. Now I feel like its almost impossible to stop my porn habit and also feel like abandoning my values and just becoming sex crazy.

I know there are differing views on the effects of porn, but my point is that i've becomed dependant on it like I drug to self medicated my loneliness. So i'm just throwing this out here, to see if anybody can shed some word of wisdom. By the way I did discuss this with my ex-therpaist and she said given that the frequency wasn't out of control and the fact she just said she could teel I just liked porn she didn't see it has a reall problem,expect for the guilt. But I still don't feel satisfied with that. I just wish I could get rid of this habit that feels like a addiction to me.

Please help!

Edited by Alberto, 29 March 2007 - 04:04 PM.


#2 muddy_sneakers

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Posted 01 May 2007 - 10:27 PM

I'd say if you think it's a problem and it's interfering with what you desire then to heck with what your ex-therapist says.

I struggle with similar things, (I know it's weird for a chick to say that), but I too wish it wasn't such an issue in my life. There are groups and organizations that offer help, just google.

I'm sorry, this probably isn't really any help to you, but I just wanted to let you know you're not the only one. Hang in there.

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Posted 01 May 2007 - 10:33 PM

I know when i was younger i used to watch porn, have even watched it with G/F's but in the end found it "boring" and repetative. Can't suggest an easy solution to be honest but so long as it's not affecting anyone else perhaps it isn't so bad really- just try not to lose touch with forming a real relationship perhaps?

#4 Alberto

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Posted 02 May 2007 - 02:39 AM

I'd say if you think it's a problem and it's interfering with what you desire then to heck with what your ex-therapist says.

I struggle with similar things, (I know it's weird for a chick to say that), but I too wish it wasn't such an issue in my life. There are groups and organizations that offer help, just google.

I'm sorry, this probably isn't really any help to you, but I just wanted to let you know you're not the only one. Hang in there.


Actually its in a way a relief to know its not just men who struggle with this things. Thanks for the honesty.

#5 Ed the chow hound

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Posted 02 May 2007 - 02:04 PM

Alberto,

Every one has a least one vice so why worry, its better than doing hard drugs.

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Posted 05 June 2008 - 02:00 AM

Alberto,

Every one has a least one vice so why worry, its better than doing hard drugs.

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