[Chaos]

Well, I had written before about my Aunt being near death and my Dad also struggling. My Dad died on July 3, he was 82 years old. He had so much going on, there is no way they could have saved him. I love him and miss him terribly. I have never lost anyone this close to me and I never knew how difficult it is. Tomorrow will be three weeks since his funeral.

[bee]

(((( Chaos ))))

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss




bee

[punisher]

just remember the cycle of life...

my condolences for your loss, but would he want you to move on.. but take your time, greif is a painful thing, but nessessiary

[drgnfly]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Chaos. We're here for you if you need to talk more about it.

[Chaos]

bee, punisher, drgnfly,
Thank you all for your well wishes. I am doing very well through this, much better than I thought I would. I have been stabilized with medication for my depression for a little while now and it has helped tremendously. Once again, thank you...

Chaos

[glassslipper]

Hi Chaos

I intended to write to you earlier, but I was choked and knew I wouldnt reply all that well, cos I lost my dad in 1988, miss him like crazy, the tears have stopped, but the missing bit hasnt. All you can do is ride the wave and try to think how he would want you to be.

Massive hug to you

Maria xx

[Hangingon]

((((Chaos))))

I am so sorry for your loss sweetie. Hang out and vent as needed, and talk about him as much as needed too. We're all here to listen and help. Glad the meds are helping you through this tough time.

Love

Sheila

[pita]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I am glad that you loved your dad and I hope that you can find some comfort in fond memories of him

-pita

[spinstr39]

hi Chaos, i know how you feel, my dad died march 21 2001. when someone you love dies, it's like being inducted into some horrible club that you don't want to be in. all i can advise is that when the grief hits you, and it will, and it may be often, go with it and allow yourself to cry, scream, shout, whatever feels right for you. it took me a week before my grief came through, but for others it might be instant, or it could be in a month or a year. on his forst anniversary i was really upset, but the 2nd and 3rd i didn't have any reaction. then on the 4th anniversary i went to a church and lit a candle for my dad, and wandered about the town feeling sad. sometimes it hits me that he's gone and sometimes it doesn't.

i think talking with other people who have suffered a loss is very very helpful, i was able to talk with my friend who had lost her husband, and she understood what i was going through. the pain eases with time. i wasn't close to my dad and he'd been ill for some time so we knew he wasn't going to last, but it's still a shock when they eventually go.

hope this helps in some little way.

[Sunshineinmyface]

((((((Chaos)))))))

I am so sorry for your loss.

[rosie8]

Chaos...sorry for your loss. I know how you feel as I lost my dad in 2007. It is like your heart actually breaking. Take care and grieve in your own time.


Rx

[Chaos]

Maria, Hangingon,Spinster39, Sunshineinmyface and rosie8, Thank you all for you kind words of encouragement. There is a huge hole where my heart belongs. I know that the grieving process has only just begun. Dad was in the hospital for 4 months before he died, and even though we knew he was dying, there is just no preparing ones self for that.

Thank you and many hugs to you all. Your support means a lot to me.

Chaos

[Elizabeth]

I am so sorry to hear about your lost any time u need someone to talk to feel free to contact me

[seasidearms]

I am so sorry for your loss

[mkrs]

I'm so sorry to hear that Chaos. My deepest condolences.

I hope you are feeling better now, if you need anything, don't hesitate to contact us here.

Huuugs


Mariel

[Chaos]

Elizabeth, Seasidearms and Mariel, Thank you so much for your kind words. I am pretty down right now. Everything seems to remind me of my Dad. I don't know when or if I will ever feel like writing more about it, but thank you for the invitations to vent here. Maybe some day I will be able to do that.

Chaos

[sofarsogood]

((((chaos))))

Hugs to you. My dad died 5 years ago last July in circumstances that sound very much like your dad's. It was the first time someone I really loved had died. But we both loved our dads. Some people don't have that luck. Now i feel that my dad is still "around" and still loves me and wants me to be happy, even though I can't see him I can still carry him in my heart every day. I am so sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Mary

[KylieJane]

Sorry for your loss Chaos.

[Ed the chow hound]

Chaos,

Sorry to hear about your dads passing and sorry that I am so late in making this post.

hugs

Ed the chow hound

[mrsmonk]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughs are with you.

Robyn