Scared of men
Posted 26 December 2010 - 07:28 AM
Posted 26 December 2010 - 01:35 PM
little bit at a time..
i ca ttake my own advice buy i guess i can give it,
everybodys different, some are bad, soem are good, some ar ejust right. men, women, even dogs and cats...
Posted 27 December 2010 - 01:53 AM
Posted 27 December 2010 - 05:59 AM
somebody once told me, that the best relationships start off as friends..
but i dono, who am i kidding, ive had 1 girlfriend, who i married and it was crap from the begining...
Posted 27 December 2010 - 11:16 AM
Posted 28 December 2010 - 09:02 AM
Posted 30 December 2010 - 04:23 PM
In regards to having been bitten by the opposite sex, next time around see that love is both constructive and destructive by its very nature.
Dont expect people to be what they are not and form realistic expectations of people. It is said god created man a little lower than the angles and the same goes for women too. I think realism is the key to good judgement in all things.
Try to see people for what they are and not what you want them to be. Know your own basic requirements and dont settle for less. Try to trade people equal rather than optimizing the relationship for either of you.
Ed the chow hound
Edited by Ed the chow hound, 02 January 2011 - 12:14 PM.
Posted 26 March 2011 - 09:45 PM
Posted 26 March 2011 - 10:52 PM
I can't imagine how horrible that must be. How do you go on?
Posted 26 May 2011 - 12:38 PM
Posted 08 December 2011 - 02:03 AM
Just try to remember that not all men are the same. My ex-husband was verbally abusive and is now in prison for molesting two children. I can't stress this enough.. therapy, therapy, therapy. I'm married to a wonderful hubby now, but even after being together for 10 years I still find that I have a lot of trust issues. Thank god he is patient and puts up with me. I suspect I'll be in therapy forever, but it does help. Don't rush into anything with anyone. You don't need a man. Sometimes it's great just to find that you can be by yourself and be OK. It's a huge ego boost. When you're ready, as punisher said, take up a hobby or something to get you out and around people. You'll meet someone. Usually when you're not really looking, it seems.
Wow that must be awful to find out that your ex-husband turned out to be a pedophile.
I agree with you totally. Be happy with yourself first. I wish I had done the same when I was younger. I was never happy with myself and seem to always get involved with the same types of girls; liars, cheats, manipulators and one in particular was very emotionally abusive and took advantage of how vulnerable I was emotionally. She knew that I wouldn't leave because I had no self esteem. I thought that I could never do any better and that she was out of my league, she knew that so she thought she could hurt me and treat me like garbage and I would always stick by her. I'm so glad it's all behind me because when I recovered and did finally manage to start feeling happy with myself and life, I met an amazing person who I have now been married to for 8 years.
Edited by blue282, 08 December 2011 - 02:07 AM.
Posted 08 December 2011 - 05:08 AM