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#1 Hangingon


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Posted 03 March 2007 - 03:13 PM

Hey guys,

Just wanted to drop a note asking for some patience and understanding with Jillie and I please. It's not often we request this, in fact this may be the first time ever....... I have taken it upon myself to stick this up on both my behalf and Jillie's as well..... Didn't discuss it with her, I am just doing it. :P

Not sure how many of you read the blogs, or even the forum announcements for that matter but things are rough for the pair of us lately.

Some of what Jillie is trying to deal with:

- Increased work hours
- Father with prostate cancer and treatments
- Godmother and breast cancer
- Terminal illness of a coworker
- Increased family pressures related to daughter dropping college and growing up, son and work training screw ups and a husband who works the most insane hours I have ever seen!
- As personal pressures mount up, Jillie tends to start procrastinating on things and falls further and further behind thus increasing the helpless feelings

Some of what I am trying to deal with:

- Working my own position at work and covering for a coworker who is also an ex BF who has had a heart attack, his job involves basically running the production line
- Dealing with family issues related to my nephew and my sister's upcoming child custody case
- Upcoming colposcopy
- Back into therapy to deal with my past, once and for all
- Father requiring gallbladder surgery, mother requiring a hysterectomy
- Preparation for another large upgrade to this forum, which means we are going to lose all skins and modifications AGAIN, so I will need to perform the upgrade and add skins and modifications back in. Upgrade is too large for manually upgrading like I usually do.

Add to all of that both of us have the daily life stuff to deal with. Meals, cleaning, shopping, outings, etc...

We both have days where the pressures mount and frustration levels rise and we sit on occasion and ponder why we do this...... We know why we do this here at BTB, don't get me wrong there but when life pressures mount on top of board pressures, there are certainly and understandably days where we feel like packing it all in. Fortunately for you all, we tend to hit these periods at different times, rather than together.

So I guess what I'd like to request is that please bear in mind that we have our issues too, and both of us are great at suppressing them and downplaying them to make them sound like it's no big deal....... It is very real to us however and does have it's effects that run deep and lately it seems to be running deeper for us both.......


Sheila and Sheila on Jillie's behalf

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Posted 03 March 2007 - 03:20 PM

(((((Jillie)))))) ((((((Sheila))))))

I'm so so sorry.

Love you both


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Posted 03 March 2007 - 03:44 PM


I had no idea you were both dealing with so much at the moment!

I hope life eases up for you both.

L xx

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Posted 03 March 2007 - 03:48 PM

(((((((Sheila))))))) (((((((Jillie)))))))

Remember that your number one priority has to be looking after yourselves!

Thinking of you both. :?:

Love, Marga xxx

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Posted 03 March 2007 - 04:22 PM

(((Jillie))) (((Sheila)))
Sounds like you both need to put your feet up and have a bit of a break. Life is obviously demanding a lot from both of you and it sounds stressful.
Also wanted to say thanks so much for all that you do here.Please look after yourselves

Sounds like you both need to book in at Uncle Ed's motel to get away from it all

Love ya

:co: :co: (one for each of you)


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Posted 03 March 2007 - 04:28 PM

Hey, you two always do a great job! If you need some time for you, TAKE IT! I hope things even out soon!

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Posted 03 March 2007 - 04:48 PM

Hey yes - take care of yourselves first - you do a wonderful job - but you also need support and time off. It must be a mammoth task doing the work you do here - and for that I am grateful.

:?: Rosiex

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Posted 03 March 2007 - 04:49 PM

If there is anything that I can do to help, please let me know.

Take care of yourselves!!

much love and strength-


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Posted 03 March 2007 - 10:44 PM

(((((((Jillie))))))) (((((((Sheila)))))))

Thinking of both of you!

Please take good and gentle care of yourselves.

If either of you need anything please let me know.


Love you both,

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Posted 03 March 2007 - 11:40 PM

(((( Sheila & Jillie ))))

Understand completely and I think we all know how lucky we are to have you 2 here running this board. Keeping this place all together plus your daily lives must be such a handful at times.
Always here to help along with the great mod team we have and the great members here, just yell out if there is anything at all I can do.

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Posted 04 March 2007 - 02:16 AM

hi Sheila and Jillie! yes, i am aware that you two have many important issues that you are dealing with. i never take you for granted. so there is a lot of understanding and kindness from the old dog in regard to your work here at btb. bless you both! :?:

Edited by oldblackdog, 04 March 2007 - 02:17 AM.

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Posted 04 March 2007 - 02:39 AM

((((((((((((Sheila)))))))))))) ((((((((((((((Jillie))))))))))))

I am so sorry you both are dealing with so many stressful things.

Yes, as the others say, take care of YOU and YOU hopefully that will help with the stress.

And as the others say, take all the time you need off board. Do not forget we all love you both and will be happy to see you take alll the time you need to face and deal with these difficult issues and lots of time to relax when you can.

You certainly have our support, both of you, and please do feel free to ask for a shoulder when needed and vent as needed here.

Please do not worry about us here at BtB, you have trained some excellent mods and Bee is great. They will keep us in line, and while certainly neither of you are replaceable, still Bee and the Mods can take care of the board, support us, keep us in line as you both do so much and so well.

I will be as good as I can and not wack out while you both gone, or on the other hand perhaps I should allow myself to wack out while you are gone and the BtB will get me in check.

Take your needed and well deserved rest I hope. All the strength and love to you both in dealing with these hard life issues and so many at once.

I am so glad to see you going back to T, Sheila, to deal with the past once and for all. That is not easy at all for anyone and I have found it hard work and going places I hope to never go again.


:kiss: for Sheila :kiss: for Jillie

:co: for Jillie :co: for Shiela

a bunch of hugs for you both
:bighug: :bighug: :bighug: :bighug:

Sending positive, strong, understanding, supportive vibes to you both.


P.S. I do not know what I can do to ease your burdens or help your spirits, but do not hesitate to ask for what you need from BtB. I have lots of hugs in the closet that I am letting out and sending your way. I can do it fast if Antea lets me ride one of her dragons. I hope so.

P.P.S. I forgot to offer you my two Lewis Armstrong cd's as Lewis has been very helpful to me when I am stressed.

Edited by sunshineinmyface, 04 March 2007 - 02:52 AM.

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Posted 04 March 2007 - 03:08 AM


all the time and support and love you need - you two deserve the best!

hope things get better soon,

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Posted 04 March 2007 - 05:14 PM

(((((Sheila))))) (((((Jillie)))))

Echoing what everyone else wrote. You both have been doing a great job, keeping this place running, safe and supportive in every way. I'm very happy this place is here for all of us. I hope that the hard times and additional stress will pass for both of you, soon.


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Posted 04 March 2007 - 10:20 PM


I havent been around in a while but i just wanted to let ye both know im thinking of ye
Im sorry things are so rough right now and i hope they improve soon
Take care of yourselves


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Posted 05 March 2007 - 01:26 PM

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I'm exhausted just reading all that!

(((((((Sheila))))))) (((((((Jillie)))))))

I'm here to do what I can and of course am here to listen too.

Love you both very much,


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Posted 05 March 2007 - 01:46 PM

((((( Sheila )))))

((((( Jillie )))))

Take care of yourselves!


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Posted 05 March 2007 - 04:29 PM


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Posted 05 March 2007 - 05:44 PM

You guys rule. Btb has been a great help to a lot of people and you two (as well as the mods, and participants) should be proud. but that doesn't change the fact that serving, and particularly running the board takes time.

Sheila, can you postpone the upgrade 'til things are less hectic?


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Posted 06 March 2007 - 12:30 PM

((((sheila)))) ((((jillie))))

hey ... you forgot to mention time when you can just sit down for a bit....make some time for that. :P
goodness.. take as much time as you both need, no need to justify.
you both do such a fantastic job at btb.
i hope things ease up for you both soon... so you can sit down just that bit longer... with feet up....and a cupsa tea..
take good care and thank you both for all of what you do
jep xxxxxX